"Love Calls For Compromise"

Some yeses have to become no. Some noes have to turn to yes. Some pleasures have to be forgone. Some have to be accepted.

Some nights have to wait till morning. Some mornings have to imitate the night.

 Some spontaneity has to become scheduled. Some schedules have to be put off. Some headaches have to be respected. Some aspirin has to be taken. All love is warm. Some love is hot.

Sweethearts scorching with fever can melt into each other without getting burned. But each of us has differing amounts of fuel. One person's fires may flare up more often than his or her sweethearts or with greater intensity. These inequalities have nothing to do with the quality of a person's love. More is not better. Neither is less. They're the same, but they're different, which is a dilemma that has no answer, except that the answer is love.

 Love calls for compromise. If two people can't balance on the seesaw, then one has to move closer to the center to one another. But while the laws of physics control seesaws, the law of love are not exact. There is no formula. There are no tables to consult. The two parties must figure it out for themselves: without anger, without bitterness, and with love. The objective to always keep in sight is pleasure and if you must turn your sweetheart down, never do it in a way that is curt or offhanded.

Always let them down as softly as you can. In the long run, you'll find such kindness will pay off handsomely.

Carol. M