"Sometimes you have to compromise"
Some yeses have to become no. Some noes have to turn to yes. Some pleasures have to be forgone. Some have to be accepted. Some nights have to wait until morning. Some mornings have to imitate the night. Some spontaneity has to become scheduled. Some schedules have to be put off. All love is warm. Some love is hot. Two sweethearts scorching with fever can melt into each other without getting burned. But each of us had differing amounts of fuel. One person's fires may flare up more often than his or her sweethearts or with greater intensity.
These inequalities have nothing to do with the quality of a person's love. More is better. Neither is less. They're the same, but they're different, which is a dilemma that has no answer, except that the answer is love. If two people can't balance on the seesaw, then one has to move closer to the center, closer to the other. But while the law of physics control seesaws, the laws of love are not exact. There is no formula. There are no tables to consult. The two parties must figure it out for themselves: without anger, without bitterness, and with love. The objective to always keep in sight is pleasure. Here's a little tip: If you must turn your partner down, never do it a way that is curt or offhanded. Always let them down softly as you can. Remember in the long run, you'll find such kindness will pay off handsomely and you can stop and smell the roses.
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